Become What You Long For

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If you inherently long for something, become it first.
If you want gardens, become the gardener.
If you want love, embody love.
If you want mental stimulation, change the conversation.
If you want peace, exude calmness.
If you want to fill your world with artists, begin to paint.
If you want to be valued, respect your own time.
If you want to live ecstatically, find the ecstasy within yourself.
This is how to draw it in, day by day, inch by inch.
Victoria Erickson

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10 Types of Emotional Manipulators

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1. The Constant Victim. This kind of individual will always find a way to end up as a victim in their relationships.

2. One-Upmanship Expert. This person uses put-downs, snide remarks and criticisms to show that they’re superior and know much more than you.

3. Powerful Dependents. They hide behind the mask of being weak and powerless then use their helplessness to dominate relationships. That is, they send the subtle message: “You must not let me down.”

4. Triangulators. This person tries to get other people on their side. They separate good friends or drive a wedge in families.

5. The Blasters. They blast you with their anger or they blow up suddenly. That stops you asking questions in case there’s a showdown.

6. The Projector. This person thinks they’re perfect and others have flaws. They take no ownership because they think they’re never, ever wrong.

7. The Deliberate Mis-Interpreter. They seem like a nice person – but they twist your words. They spread misinformation and misinterpret you. Thus, they deliberately present you in a false, negative way.

8. The Flirt. This person uses flirting to get their way in life. They want to be admired and to have an audience. However, your feelings and your needs are of no concern to them.

9. The Iron Fist. They use intimidation and throw their weight around to use you for their end and get their way in life.

10. The Multiple Offender. This person uses several of the techniques we’ve described and they’ll often switch between them if it suits their purposes.

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You Have Endless Opportunities To Grow

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Stop believing that you ran out of time to shape yourself into who you want to be. Stop believing that it’s ruined. Stop believing you don’t have potential. You are not a fixed being. You have endless opportunities to grow.

Don’t fear failure. Fear being in the same place in a year from now.

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You Are Not Responsible For Other People’s Emotions

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You have to get to the point where your mood doesn’t shift based on the insignificant actions of someone else.

Just because you can feel another person’s emotions doesn’t make you responsible for them.
Sarah Brooke

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Love Will Always Find A Way

Love will find a way.

You can’t give up on someone just because the situation’s not ideal. Great relationships aren’t great because they have no problems. They’re great because both people care enough about the other person to find a way to make it work.

Don’t miss out on something that could be great just because it could also be difficult.

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