How To Build Self-Esteem When You’re Struggling With Depression

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1. Get into the habit of challenging your thinking, especially when it falls into the same old repeated, negative patterns.

2. Keep a thankfulness journal and deliberately look for the good things in your life.

3. Spend time with people who can see your strengths and make you feel good about yourself.

4. Keep some photos or mementos that remind you of your passions – these can help inspire you to love your life again.

5. Leave positive notes and quotes around your room, inside your wallet or on your desk or phone.

6. See failure as a stepping stone that leads to further growth and as something that is experienced by us all.

7. Deliberately nurture and care for yourself. See this as an essential and top priority.

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How To Protect Yourself From Negative Energy

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· Awareness: Recognize when the emotions that you feel belong to someone else. If your spouse is angry, identify that emotion and acknowledge it, but remind yourself that it is their anger, not yours.
· Self-love: Protect yourself from psychological attacks by loving yourself more than your attacker. You do not deserve abuse.
· Visualize a shield: Visualize your glowing white aura expanding to surround your body in a protective zone that cannot be invaded by others. See the aura as a white bubble that can flex, but never burst.

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The Four Centres In Your Body

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When feeling into our attractions with others, it’s pretty handy to feel into the 4 centres in our body:

  • SEX CENTRE (does this person turn you on immensely, is there intense sexual energy between you from the very beginning?)
  • TUMMY (what does your intuition/gut feeling tell you?)
  • HEART CENTRE (is there a deep heart connection present?)
  • HEAD (what’s that voice inside your head got to say?)

Check in with each centre. Do you have a big YES to this person at each centre? Or a big NO? Perhaps you have a YES at one centre, and NO at the others?

Ultimately, for committed, particularly monogamous relationships to have ecstatic sex, deep passion and an intense heart connection, you ultimately want to have a YES at ALL 4 centres.

Many, many couples make the mistake of committing to someone because their heart centre says YES, but their sex centre was always NO. Or, their sex centre was YES, so the sex was great, but deep down their heart and intuition always felt off. There’s so many different combinations of the YES’S and NO’S, but I find this process very handy when choosing who we interact with sexually and who we enter into committed relationships with. Personally I’ve realised (through trial and error many times over) that the best relationship is when there are 4 strong YES’S.

Juliet Allen

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Don’t Take Anything Personally

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Don’t take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements

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