Trying Your Best

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Friendly reminder: When people say ‘as long as you tried your best,’ it doesn’t mean the best you could possibly have done ever—it means the best you were capable of at the time. Sometimes ‘trying your best’ is just getting out of bed in the morning. Just because you weren’t working yourself to the bone, doesn’t mean you weren’t trying your best.

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True Self-Esteem

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How one treats one’s body and psyche speaks volumes about one’s self-esteem: abusing body or soul with harmful chemicals, behaviors, work overload, lack of personal time and space all denote poor self-regard. All of these behaviors and attitudes reveal a fundamental stance towards the self that is conditional and devoid of true self respect. Self-esteem based on achievement has been called contingent self-esteem or acquired self-esteem. Unlike contingent self-esteem, true self-esteem has nothing to do with a self-evaluation on the basis of achievement or the lack of it. A person truly comfortable in his own skin doesn’t say, ‘I am a worthy human being because I can do such and such,’ but says, ‘I am a worthy human being whether or not I can do such and such.’ Contingent self-esteem evaluates; true self-esteem accepts.
Gabor Maté, Scattered

Painting by Celia Jacobs