1. The Constant Victim. This kind of individual will always find a way to end up as a victim in their relationships.
2. One-Upmanship Expert. This person uses put-downs, snide remarks and criticisms to show that they’re superior and know much more than you.
3. Powerful Dependents. They hide behind the mask of being weak and powerless then use their helplessness to dominate relationships. That is, they send the subtle message: “You must not let me down.”
4. Triangulators. This person tries to get other people on their side. They separate good friends or drive a wedge in families.
5. The Blasters. They blast you with their anger or they blow up suddenly. That stops you asking questions in case there’s a showdown.
6. The Projector. This person thinks they’re perfect and others have flaws. They take no ownership because they think they’re never, ever wrong.
7. The Deliberate Mis-Interpreter. They seem like a nice person – but they twist your words. They spread misinformation and misinterpret you. Thus, they deliberately present you in a false, negative way.
8. The Flirt. This person uses flirting to get their way in life. They want to be admired and to have an audience. However, your feelings and your needs are of no concern to them.
9. The Iron Fist. They use intimidation and throw their weight around to use you for their end and get their way in life.
10. The Multiple Offender. This person uses several of the techniques we’ve described and they’ll often switch between them if it suits their purposes.
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You have to get to the point where your mood doesn’t shift based on the insignificant actions of someone else.
Just because you can feel another person’s emotions doesn’t make you responsible for them.
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You can’t give up on someone just because the situation’s not ideal. Great relationships aren’t great because they have no problems. They’re great because both people care enough about the other person to find a way to make it work.
Don’t miss out on something that could be great just because it could also be difficult.
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