Our self-perception determines our behavior. If we think we’re small, limited, inadequate creatures, then we tend to behave that way, and the energy we radiate reflects those thoughts no matter what we do. If we think we’re magnificent creatures with an infinite abundance of love and power to give, then we tend to behave that way. Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles”
So you dated the wrong person and learned a hard lesson. You chose the wrong major and had to start over again. You cherished a friend who backstabbed you. It sucks, but it’s also going to work out. That’s life; you learn, hurt, love, cry, laugh, and keep going. You experience setbacks and you grow and it’s all okay. Sunflorally
It is often possible to manage anxiety by actively replacing irrational thoughts with more balanced and reasonable thoughts like the following:
1. I’m going to be OK. Sometimes my feelings are irrational and false. I’m just going to relax and take things easy. Everything is going to be fine.
2. Anxiety may feel bad but it isn’t dangerous. There’s nothing wrong with me. Everything is going to be OK.
3. Feelings come and feelings go. Right now I feel bad but I know this is only temporary. I’ve done it before so I can do it again.
4. This image in my head isn’t reasonable or rational. I need to change my thinking and focus my attention on something that’s healthier and generally helps me to feel good about myself. For example _____________.
5. I’ve managed to interrupt and change these thoughts before, so I know I can do it again. The more I practise this, the easier it will become. Anxiety is a habit – and it’s a habit that I can break.
6. So what if I’m anxious? It’s not the end of the world. It’s not going to kill me. I just need to take a few deep breaths and keep going.
7. Just take the next step. Just do the next thing.
8. Even if I have to put up with a period of anxiety, I’ll be glad that I did, persevered and succeeded.
9. I can feel anxious and still do a good job. The more I focus on the task at hand, the more my anxiety will ease, then disappear.
10. Anxiety doesn’t have a hold on me. It’s something I’m working on and changing over time.