Happy Without You

Sure, I’m sad, but I’m not looking to soothe that sadness by replacing it with a new relationship. Women are allowed to be sad, and they’re allowed to be single, and they don’t need to hear that one day a man is going to make it all go away by telling her she is good enough again. She’s good enough as she is.
Charlotte Green

I’m going to find a way to be happy, and I’d really love to be happy with you, but if I can’t be happy with you, then I’ll find a way to be happy without you.
Randy Pausch

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Tips For Becoming Mentally Strong

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1. Don’t fear being and doing things alone.

2. Keep your focus on the future, not the past.

3. Understand that things take time.

4. Be patient, and keep trying when things are difficult.

5. Don’t fear being judged or criticized by others.

6. Decide to be the author and creator of your life.

7. Don’t let other people determine what you do.

8. Let go of all the things you can’t control.

9. Learn to both accept, and manage, your emotions.

10. Take calculated risks, and do what’s new and different.

Online Counselling College

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Your Job Is To Look However You Want

Another woman's beauty is not the absence of your own beauty.

Confidence is the ability to feel beautiful without needing someone to tell you.
Mandy Hale

The first step towards confidence is not being afraid to be ugly.
Once you get over the fear of being unattractive and stop equating beauty with other good things in life (friends, love, happiness), it’s a lot easier to love yourself unconditionally.
Your job is not to sit around and be pretty and easy on everyone else’s eyes.
Your job is to do whatever the fuck you want and look however the fuck you want while doing it.
Pink Spotlight

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Don’t Let Bitterness Change You For The Worse

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The more you have loved and have allowed yourself to suffer because of your love, the more you will be able to let your heart grow wider and deeper.
Henri Nouwen

When other people treat you poorly keep being you. Don’t ever let someone else’s bitterness change the person you are.
Unknown

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Focus On The Light Of Being

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There are days when life feels so heavy it actually hurts just to breathe. It’s then that I hear my soul reminding me just to let go – for it will eventually pass. Sometimes we fight too hard when we need to focus simply on being.
E. Hicks

I wish I could show you, when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being.
Hafiz of Shiraz

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Live Your Life On Your Own Terms

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It took me a long time to realize that you can do everything right and still end up unhappy. You can say all of the right things, do exactly as you are told, follow in the footsteps of all the people who swore by their success and their strategy surrounding it, and you can still end up displaced — because you didn’t ever choose to simply listen to yourself.
The best thing I ever did for myself was simply listen to what I actually wanted. I drowned out the guidelines, the advice, the ‘shoulds.’ And I messed up. I made mistakes that I’ll never forget. I hurt people I loved, and I got hurt.
See, self discovery isn’t this comfortable, miraculous thing. It can get ugly, it can get confusing. It’s gritty, it’s hard. It’s difficult to confront yourself sometimes, it’s difficult to be the person who does things differently, who doesn’t settle.
But it’s the greatest gift you will ever give yourself. It will push you towards figuring out what your own personal version of happiness looks like; and when you grow on your own terms, when you figure out what actually matters to you, and when you carve out your own path, you live on your own terms. You love on your own terms. You become the person you have always wanted to be, rather than the person you were always told to be, and that is beautiful. Because when it comes down to it — life is about making yourself proud on your own terms. It’s about finding a happiness that works for you.
Bianca Sparacino

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