A Truly Happy Person…

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1. Is able to experience a whole range of emotions. He or she is authentic and doesn’t wear a mask. They don’t always seem upbeat or are never, ever down. Also, they don’t project their moods and their feelings onto others or blame other people if they’re having a bad day.

2. Is able to appreciate the beauty of others, and is happy for them when successes come their way. They are someone who’s secure in their own identity and doesn’t need to criticize or want others to fail.

3. Can let offenses go, and doesn’t take things personally. That’s because they have a healthy and balanced self-esteem.

4. Is concerned when others suffer and will offer them support. This person’s a true friend and they truly care for you.

5. Is not in competition with others in their life. They compete against themselves, and try to raise their own bar high.

6. Doesn’t magnify the bad or distort reality. They work on their shortcomings and they recognize their strengths.

7. Appreciates the small things, and can make the most of the “now”. They’re not tripped up the past or are quick to run ahead. They know that both these matter – but what matters right now is “today”.

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Make People Feel Like They Are Enough

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The best gift you are ever going to give someone – the permission to feel safe in their own skin. To feel worthy. To feel like they are enough.
Hannah Brechner

I find the best way to love someone is not to change them, but instead, to help them reveal the greatest version of himself.
Steve Maraboli

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Small Ways To Improve Your Life

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  • Make your bed to immediately make your room look more put together
  • Water first, then coffee or tea
  • Pray or meditate, even just for ten minutes, to set the tone for your day
  • Browse the news headlines (and read the articles that interest you when you’ve got time)
  • Wear something you feel b o m b in
  • Listen to music while doing your daily activities – commuting, cleaning, cooking, exercising
  • Smile at at least two people
  • Smile at YOURSELF
  • Call or message someone you love
  • Eat food that makes you feel radiant
  • Make lists of things you need to accomplish for the day
  • Stretch for 10 minutes
  • Record in your phone the positive thoughts you have so you can remember them
  • Carry water with you (always always always)
  • Shut off your phone for an hour and have some ME time
  • Take a hot shower or bath at the end of a stressful day
  • Try to make plans to spend time with someone at least once a week
  • Think about three things you are grateful for at the end of each day
  • Do something calming, relaxing and non-electronic 30 minutes before you sleep
  • Sleep pants-less

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For Women Who Are Difficult To Love

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you are a horse running alone
and he tries to tame you
compares you to an impossible highway
to a burning house
says you are blinding him
that he could never leave you
forget you
want anything but you
you dizzy him, you are unbearable
every woman before or after you
is doused in your name
you fill his mouth
his teeth ache with memory of taste
his body just a long shadow seeking yours
but you are always too intense
frightening in the way you want him
unashamed and sacrificial
he tells you that no man can live up to the one who
lives in your head
and you tried to change didn’t you?
closed your mouth more
tried to be softer
prettier
less volatile, less awake
but even when sleeping you could feel
him travelling away from you in his dreams
so what did you want to do, love
split his head open?
you can’t make homes out of human beings
someone should have already told you that
and if he wants to leave
then let him leave
you are terrifying
and strange and beautiful
something not everyone knows how to love.
Warsan Shire

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Stand In Your Pain And Suffering

Strong in the Lord, I will put on his armor and stand

Healing doesn’t mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls my life.
Akshay Dubey

Pain and suffering are always inevitable for a large intelligence and a deep heart.
Fyodor Dostoyevsky

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Chase The Right Things

In between goals is a thing called life, that has to be lived and enjoyed.

So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even when they’re busy doing things they think are important. This is because they’re chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.
Mitch Albom

Do what makes you happy. Take care of yourself. Be carefree. We’re not going to live forever, and when you really think about it, it’s really not that long in the grand scheme of things. So live gracefully. Stop chasing towards material things and being someone that you’re not. Life is far too short to be anyone but yourself and to be doing anything that you’re not completely in love with.
The Power Within

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