Don’t Neglect The Present

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Please make sure that wherever you’re at in life, you don’t treat it like a transitory period. Don’t waste your college years wishing to already be graduated & have a job. Don’t waste your single years wishing for someone to be in love with. If/when those things come, they will come in due time and they will be good. But there is nothing like looking back and feeling empty because you wasted literal years ignoring what you had because you were hoping for something better. While it’s important to better yourself and reach for your goals, don’t neglect the present because that’s where you are now and it’s your now that determines your future.
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12 Things Happy People Do Differently

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Happy people value and choose:

1. Love over fear: People who are really happy fear less and love a lot more. They see each moment, each challenge, each person as an opportunity to discover more about themselves and the world around them.

2. Acceptance over resistance: Happy people understand that you can’t really change a situation by resisting it. When something unpleasant happens to them, they don’t try to fight it. Instead, they ask themselves questions like: What can I learn from this? How can I make this better?

3. Forgiveness over unforgiveness: Really happy people know that it’s not healthy to hold on to anger. They choose to forgive and forget, understanding that forgiveness is a gift they give themselves.

4. Trust over mistrust: They trust themselves and they can figure out who is trustworthy – and who they should avoid.

5. Meaning over ambition: They do the things they do because of the meaning it brings into their lives and because they get a sense of purpose by doing so. They’re not driven by the need to gain approval from others.

6. Challenges over obstacles: Happy people see problems as challenges and as opportunities to explore new ways of doing things.

7. Selflessness over selfishness: Happy people look for ways to give and to share the best of themselves, and to make other people happy if they can.

8. Kindness over harshness: They are kind to themselves and others and they understand the power of self-love, self-forgiveness and self-acceptance.

9. Gratitude over ingratitude: No matter where they look, no matter where they are or with who, happy people have the capacity to see beauty where many would only see ugliness – and they’re quick to express their gratitude, as well.

10. Being present over being disengaged: Happy people know how to live in the present moment, appreciating what they have and where they are.

11. Positivity over negativity: No matter what happens to them, happy people always seem to adopt and maintain a positive, and upbeat, perspective.

12. Taking responsibility over blaming: Happy people take full ownership of their lives. They choose to keep their power and take responsibility for everything that happens to them.

Online Counselling College (Source: Purpose Fairy) (Abridged)

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