How To Live A Simpler, More Contented Life

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1. Ask yourself “What’s important?” Take a step back and think about what’s important to you. What do you really want to be doing, who do you want to spend your time with, what do you want to accomplish with your work? Make a short list of 4-5 things for your life, 4-5 people you want to spend time with and 4-5 things you’d like to accomplish at work.

2. Examine your commitments. A big part of the problem is that our lives are way too full. We can’t possibly do everything we have committed to doing, and we certainly can’t enjoy it if we’re trying to do everything. Accept that you can’t do everything, only do what’s important to you and try to eliminate the commitments that aren’t as important.

3. Do less each day. Don’t fill your day up with things to do. You will end up rushing to do them all. If you normally do 7-10 things, do 5 important ones instead. This will give you time to do what you need to do and not rush.

4. Leave space between tasks or appointments. Another mistake is trying to schedule things back-to-back. This leaves no cushion in case things take longer than planned (which they always do) and gives us a feeling of being rushed and stressed throughout the day.

5. Eliminate as much as possible from your to-do list. You can’t do everything on your to-do list. Even if you could, more things will come up. As much as you can, simplify your to-do list down to the essentials.

6. Now, slow down and enjoy every task. Enjoy whatever you’re doing. Try to pay attention to the task instead of thinking about other things. Be in the moment. Enjoy the present.

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Self-Love Is Important

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My biggest mistakes in life have all stemmed from giving my powers to someone else – believing that the love others had to offer was more important than the love I had to give myself.
Oprah Winfrey

Be a better you, for you.
Sonya Teclai

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Mental Health Tips

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The following tips can help your mental health:

· Daydream. Close your eyes and imagine yourself in a dream location. Breathe slowly and deeply. Whether it’s a beach, a mountaintop, a hushed forest or a favourite room from your past, let the comforting environment wrap you in a sensation of peace and tranquility.

· “Collect” positive emotional moments. Make it a point to recall times when you have experienced pleasure, comfort, tenderness, confidence or other positive emotions.

· Learn ways to cope with negative thoughts. Negative thoughts can be insistent and loud. Learn to interrupt them. Don’t try to block them (that never works), but don’t let them take over. Try distracting or comforting yourself if you can’t solve the problem right away.

· Do one thing at a time. For example, when you are out for a walk or spending time with friends, turn off your cell phone and stop making that mental “to-do” list. Take in all the sights, sounds and smells you encounter.

· Exercise. Regular physical activity improves psychological well-being and can reduce depression and anxiety. Joining an exercise group or a gym can also reduce loneliness since it connects you with a new set of people sharing a common goal.

· Enjoy hobbies. Taking up a hobby brings balance to your life by allowing you to do something you enjoy because you want to do it, free of the pressure of everyday tasks. It also keeps your brain active.

· Set personal goals. Goals don’t have to be ambitious. You might decide to finish that book you started three years ago, take a walk around the block every day, learn to knit or play bridge or call your friends instead of waiting for the phone to ring. Whatever goal you set, reaching it will build confidence and a sense of satisfaction.

· Keep a journal. Expressing yourself after a stressful day can help you gain perspective, release tension and even boost your body’s resistance to illness.

· Share humour. Life often gets too serious, so when you hear or see something that makes you smile or laugh, share it with someone you know. A little humour can go a long way to keeping us mentally fit!

· Volunteer. Volunteering is called the “win-win” activity because helping others makes us feel good about ourselves. At the same time, it widens our social network, provides us with new learning experiences and can bring balance to our lives.

· Treat yourself well. Cook yourself a good meal. Have a bubble bath. See a movie. Call a friend or relative you haven’t talked to in ages. Sit on a park bench and breathe in the fragrance of flowers and grass. Whatever it is, do it just for you.

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Kindness Always Makes A Difference

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A little kindness in life never hurt anyone. I’m not telling you to not have boundaries and be stupidly nice and let people step all over you. I’m saying work hard, be kind to others, stand up for yourself, stand your ground and stay humble. You can be aware of your value and be humble, simultaneously. We are all humans – never look down on someone and think that you are better than someone else. We all crave acceptance and love. No matter how talented, rich, successful or educated you believe you are, how you treat people ultimately tells it all.
Just For Smiles

Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference.
Barbara de Angelis

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Be Like The Ocean

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Be like the ocean. Breathtaking to look at, strong enough to not be destroyed, and gentle enough so others find comfort in your presence.

The world tells you many lies about who you are, and you simply have to be realistic enough to remind yourself of this. Every time you feel hurt, offended or rejected, you have to dare to say to yourself: ‘These feelings, strong as they may be, are not telling me the truth about myself.’
Henri Nouwen

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Know Your Self-Worth

If outside validation is your only source of nourishment, you will hunger for the rest of your life

It’s important to keep your feelings and self-worth in different places because when your feelings get hurt, it shouldn’t change the way you see yourself.

Modern society has perfected the art of making people not feel necessary.
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