Decide It’s Over

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You ask everybody you know: How long does it usually take to get over it?
There are many formulas. One year for every year you dated. Two years for every year you dated. It’s just a matter of willpower: The day you decide it’s over, it’s over. You never get over it.
Junot Diaz, This Is How You Lost Her

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Time

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Our life is made upon time; our days are measured in hours, our pay measured by those hours, our knowledge is measured by years. We grab a quick few minutes in our busy day to have a coffee break. We rush back to our desks, we watch the clock, we live by appointments. And yet your time eventually runs out and you wonder in your heart of hearts if those seconds, minutes, hours, days, weeks, months, years, and decades were being spent the best way they possibly could. In other words, if you could change anything, would you?
Cecelia Ahern, Love, Rosie

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There’s No Time Limit On Happiness

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Things you can do at any stage in life:

• love yourself
• have a fresh start
• go back to school
• recover
• make new friends
• fall in love
• go to therapy
• learn a skill
• discover your passion
• repair relationships
• change the world
• find a new hobby
• be happy

It isn’t too late for you. you’ll be okay. There’s no time limit on happiness.

Thor Advice

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Keep Making Mindful Choices

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How you program your mind when you’re at a low point is so impactful. Resorting back to toxic patterns when you’re low is only strengthening those neural pathways and programming your mind to make those unhealthy choices or think those unhealthy thoughts every time you’re not feeling well. Alternatively, trying your hardest to cope in a healthier way every time you’re feeling bad will strengthen those positive neural pathways, and as time goes on, it will become easier to make healthy choices and say no to toxic patterns. This, of course, isn’t to say that you should feel guilty if you relapse; it is not by any means easy to reprogram your brain and sometimes we relapse and that’s okay, so long as we’re trying our best to treat ourselves better.
Lune Loving

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