Feeling It All

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Positivity is cool and all but repressing negative feelings is toxic to your mind and body. Don’t feel guilt for having an array of emotions. It’s corny to fake positivity when it isn’t sincere. Feeling stuff—even bad stuff—is nothing to be guilty over. It’s okay to feel bad sometimes.

That’s how you live: you cry, you ache, you hurt, you can’t breathe. That’s how you move forward, by feeling it all.
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7 Self-Compassionate Stress Relievers

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1. Start the morning with a time of silence so that you feel calm and are grounded for the day.

2. Set good intentions for yourself. Make sure your automatic thoughts are positive and healthy.

3. Focus on your breathing to relieve anxiety and create a sense of being strong and in control.

4. Stretch to release any tightness or tension and so you don’t carry around the stresses of the day.

5. Set small, realistic and manageable tasks so you don’t start to panic and feel overwhelmed.

6. Keep your focus on right now – don’t worry about later. Remind yourself to live in this moment fruitfully.

7. Before you go to bed, think of 3 things that went right. End end the day with gratitude, then rest and get some sleep.

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8 Things You Can Chill Out About

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1. The few things that aren’t going right. When things go wrong, take a moment to be thankful for all the other things that are still going right. And if you’re struggling to be thankful for what you have, be thankful for what you have escaped. Sometimes the best gifts in life are the troubles you don’t have.

2. Trying to label everyone and everything. Sometimes you’ve just got to take people and situations for what they are, appreciate them, and not try to label them or change them.

3. Worrying about what everyone else thinks. The minute you stop overwhelming your mind with caring about what everyone else thinks and start doing what you feel in your heart is right, is the minute you will finally feel freedom.

4. Wasting time on the wrong people. You cannot make someone respect you; all you can do is be someone who can be respected. No matter how much you care, some people just won’t care back. At some point you have to realize the truth – that they no longer care or never did, and that maybe you’re wasting your time and missing out on someone else who does.

5. Old wounds and grudges. You will never find peace until you learn to finally let go of the hatred and hurt that lives in your heart. In order to move on, you must know why you felt the way you did, and why you no longer need to feel that way. It’s about accepting the past, letting it be, and pushing your spirit forward with good intentions.

6. Superficial judgments. Every human being is beautiful; it just takes the right set of eyes to see it.

7. Letting small disagreements snowball out of control. Don’t let a single poisonous moment of misunderstanding make you forget about the countless lovable moments you’ve spent together.

8. Showing a lack of self-respect. Decide this minute to never again beg anyone for the love, respect, and attention that you should be showing yourself. Choose to be your own best friend.

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Learn To Say No

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Learn to say:
No, to people when you don’t feel like hanging out.
No, to people who don’t deserve your time.
No, to people that make you feel uncomfortable.
No, to people that threaten your happiness.
No, to people that don’t let you be yourself.
No, to people that make you ashamed for what you like.

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Help For When You’re Feeling Broken

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1. Share your story with someone. Often, it helps to put the sadness into words.

2. Try to detach and unplug for a while.

3. Respect your need for space and a period of low stress.

4. Allow yourself to feel all the negative feelings.

5. Take care of your body and your physical needs.

6. Treat yourself with kindness and invest in self-care.

7. Believe that you are able to recover and go on.

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How To Recover From A Broken Heart

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1. Remember that healing is a long, slow process. Breaking up is painful and unleashes strong emotions, so be gentle with yourself and allow yourself to grieve.

2. Accept that some relationships are not meant to last. It’s a fact of life that we all want different things and we’re not always suited to the person we are dating.

3. Reflect on what you learned from the relationship. Grow through your experience and become more self-aware.

4. Rediscover who you are as a unique individual. We can sometimes lose ourselves when we’re part of a couple, so use this time to focus on yourself again.

5. Invest in your interests and passions. There’s so much more to life than being with one person. So, use this time to do the things you really love to do.

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