7 Childhood Issues that Affect our Later Relationships

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1. Threats and fear of abandonment. These can lead to jealousy and feelings of insecurity.

2. Lack of emotional nurturing. This can lead to feelings of emotional deprivation which can feel like a bottomless pit to fill.

3. Growing up with feelings of entitlement. This can lead to feeling as if you don’t have to live by the same rules as others as you are special and a bit superior.

4. Being told that you’re inferior or inadequate. This causes you feel like you’re never good enough.

5. The demand to be perfect and to always get things right. This can leading to being driven and having incredibly high standards.

6. Being betrayed by those you trusted so that you won’t trust now, and you can’t get close to others or let them get close to you.

7. Being raised in a way that your needs were denied, not allowed, disregarded, trivialised or ignored. This can lead to a doormat type of personality where other people matter and your needs never count.

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Interrupt Your Anxious Thoughts

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My therapist taught me to interrupt my anxious thinking with thoughts like: ‘What if things work out’ and ‘What if all my hard work pays off?’
So, I’m passing that onto you wherever you are, whatever you’re leaving, or whomever you’re becoming.
Sinclair P. Ceasar III

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Crying Is A Relief

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Destroy the idea that crying is negative. Crying is relief, a way to let all of the sadness, anger, joy and emotion out. End the idea that we need to stop crying, stop letting out emotion, stop being human. End it.

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If You Are One Of Those People

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If you are one of those people who has the ability to make it down to the bottom of the ocean, the ability to swim the dark waters without fear, the astonishing ability to move through life’s worst crucibles and not die, then you also have the ability to bring something back to the surface that helps others in a way that they cannot achieve themselves.
Lidia Yuknavitch

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