Emotional Abuse

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The following are associated with emotional abuse:

  • Withholding love, affection and attention
  • Threatening the individual
  • Abandoning, or threatening abandonment
  • Fits of anger and rage
  • Engaging in chronic deceit
  • Criticizing, belittling, ridiculing or demeaning the individual
  • Negatively labelling the person
  • Controlling their life and ordering them around
  • Minimizing their opinions, and ignoring the person’s wishes, needs and preferences
  • Gaslighting, and denying the individual’s reality
  • Isolating the person from their family and friends

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Breathtakingly Beautiful

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Life is amazing. And then it’s awful. And then it’s amazing again. And in between the amazing and the awful its ordinary and mundane and routine. Breathe in the amazing; hold on through the awful; and relax and exhale during the ordinary. That’s just living heartbreaking, soul healing, amazing, ordinary, awful life. And it’s breathtakingly beautiful.
LR Knost

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Important Reminders

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Read interesting books. Listen to beautiful lyrics and melodies. Write your own stories. Go to concerts, parks and museums. Study hard. Take care of yourself. Stay hydrated. Learn to appreciate the little things. Travel. Learn a language. Remind your friends that you’re there for them. Be kind, and feel.

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The Storm

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So all you can do is give in to it, step right inside the storm, closing your eyes and plugging up your ears so the sand doesn’t get in, and walk through it, step by step. There’s no sun there, no moon, no direction, no sense of time. Just fine white sand swirling up into the sky like pulverized bones. That’s the kind of sandstorm you need to imagine.

And you really will have to make it through that violent, metaphysical, symbolic storm. No matter how metaphysical or symbolic it might be, make no mistake about it: it will cut through flesh like a thousand razor blades. People will bleed there, and you will bleed too. Hot, red blood. You’ll catch that blood in your hands, your own blood and the blood of others.

And once the storm is over you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, in fact, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.
Haruki Mirakami, Kafka on the Shore

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