Small Ways To Improve Your Life

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  • Make your bed to immediately make your room look more put together
  • Water first, then coffee or tea
  • Pray or meditate, even just for ten minutes, to set the tone for your day
  • Browse the news headlines (and read the articles that interest you when you’ve got time)
  • Wear something you feel b o m b in
  • Listen to music while doing your daily activities – commuting, cleaning, cooking, exercising
  • Smile at at least two people
  • Smile at YOURSELF
  • Call or message someone you love
  • Eat food that makes you feel radiant
  • Make lists of things you need to accomplish for the day
  • Stretch for 10 minutes
  • Record in your phone the positive thoughts you have so you can remember them
  • Carry water with you (always always always)
  • Shut off your phone for an hour and have some ME time
  • Take a hot shower or bath at the end of a stressful day
  • Try to make plans to spend time with someone at least once a week
  • Think about three things you are grateful for at the end of each day
  • Do something calming, relaxing and non-electronic 30 minutes before you sleep
  • Sleep pants-less


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Remain With The Sadness

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When there’s a fresh wound in your heart, keep it open until it heals. Air it out. Understand it. Dive into it. Be fierce enough to become it. If you ignore it, it won’t be able to breath. If you ignore it, it will merely deepen, spread, and resurface later, wanting to release. And when later happens, it will hurt even more, because when later happens, you won’t know what you’re bleeding for. Remain with it until it clears, and watch the beauty pour into your openness. Remain open to feel lightness. Remain open to feel free.
Victoria Erickson

I have learned that when sadness comes to visit me, all I can do is say “I see you.” I spend some time with it, get up, and say goodbye. I don’t push it away. I own it. And because I own it, I let it go.
Carolina Zacaria

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Self-Care Isn’t Always Pretty

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Self-care isn’t always pretty, it’s not always candles and a bathtub full of roses, sometimes it’s forcing yourself to get out of bed and dragging yourself, sometimes it’s the pep talk you give to yourself or the quick cry in the corner. Sometimes it is convincing yourself to do all these things you should be doing but you have no will whatsoever, sometimes it’s cutting some ties no matter how precious they were, sometimes it’s the bitter medicine you need to give yourself.
Self-care isn’t always pretty but it’s so worth it.
Kriti G

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What Beauty Will I Create Today?

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Instead of asking why they left, now I ask, ‘What beauty will I create in the space they no longer occupy?’
Rudy Francisco

If you miss someone who does not miss you, or who is not good for you, or is unattainable, take all the love you once felt for them and spread it around other places. Put your love in worthwhile people and things, turn the romance into passion for hobbies or admiration for others – enrich your own life. Focus on yourself and those who actively make you happy.
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What Do You Need?

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My therapist suggested replacing ‘is there anything I can do’ with ‘what do you need’ when comforting someone as the first kind of assumes you as part of the equation in helping someone which isn’t always helpful. It also kind of pressures the person suffering to kind of come up with something FOR you to do. I get so frustrated with that first question as a person who gets it a lot.

The second not only takes the pressure off but also might help the person really consider what their actual needs are: like hey, I haven’t eaten, maybe that’s a reason I feel crappy. It takes the asker out of the immediate picture so the person struggling can focus on what they actually need, and then if you CAN help, you can offer it.

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Building Self-Esteem When You’re Struggling With Depression

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1. Get into the habit of challenging your thinking – especially when it falls into the same old repeated, negative patterns.

2. Keep a thankfulness journal and deliberately look for the good things in your life.

3. Spend time with people who can see your strengths and who make you feel good about yourself.

4. Keep some photos or mementos that remind you of your passions and inspire you to love your life again.

5. Leave positive notes and quotes around your room, inside your wallet, on your desk or on your phone.

6. See failure as a stepping stone that leads to further growth and as something that is common, experienced by us all.

7. Deliberately nurture and care for yourself and see this as essential and a top priority.

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