Leave The Pieces And Move On

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You can spend minutes, hours, days, weeks or even months overanalysing a situation, trying to put the pieces together, justifying what could’ve, would’ve happened… or you can just leave the pieces on the floor and move on.
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Soulmates Aren’t Just Lovers

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A relationship should not be measured in months or years. It’s the calibre of the memories that matter. Their impact, their permanence, and the degree to which they change you. I’ve had relationships lasting years I can now scarcely recollect, and hours with others that feel like infinities.
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7 Childhood Issues that Affect our Later Relationships

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1. Threats and fear of abandonment. These can lead to jealousy and feelings of insecurity.

2. Lack of emotional nurturing. This can lead to feelings of emotional deprivation which can feel like a bottomless pit to fill.

3. Growing up with feelings of entitlement. This can lead to feeling as if you don’t have to live by the same rules as others as you are special and a bit superior.

4. Being told that you’re inferior or inadequate. This causes you feel like you’re never good enough.

5. The demand to be perfect and to always get things right. This can leading to being driven and having incredibly high standards.

6. Being betrayed by those you trusted so that you won’t trust now, and you can’t get close to others or let them get close to you.

7. Being raised in a way that your needs were denied, not allowed, disregarded, trivialised or ignored. This can lead to a doormat type of personality where other people matter and your needs never count.

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Talk About Things That Upset You

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In a healthy, close relationship of any kind, when something upsets you, you need to bring it up. As soon as possible, even. Cultivate an environment in which you both can talk about things that upset you, with the utmost attention to everyone’s feelings. It’s a really simple thing to do but it’s a thing I’ve been working on for a while and I’m getting actual nice things happening as a result.

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