Leave The Pieces And Move On

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You can spend minutes, hours, days, weeks or even months overanalysing a situation, trying to put the pieces together, justifying what could’ve, would’ve happened… or you can just leave the pieces on the floor and move on.
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Some Things To Remember

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1. Waiting and not knowing is a large part of life.

2. Often, what we fear doesn’t happen in the end.

3. We all have our flaws; everyone is on a journey.

4. Expect to get things wrong and to mess things up at times.

5. A good and trusted friend truly is a gift and treasure.

6. Treat yourself and others with kindness and respect.

7. Be patient in your struggles as they teach important lessons.

8. Believe you have the grit to create the life you want.

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8 Ways To Destroy A Relationship

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1. Be abusive. As well as physical abuse, this includes put-downs, sarcasm, negative and hurtful comments, deliberately withholding affection, stonewalling, refusing to talk, and repeatedly threatening to leave the relationship.

2. Be defensive. Individuals who are always on the defensive are so wrapped up in protecting themselves that they rarely grow in their relationships with others. They won’t admit that they have faults and so they end up committing the same mistakes again and again. This eventually destroys the relationship.

3. Be critical. While there’s sometimes a place for the occasional remark, if you’re always complaining and pointing out their flaws then you’ll soon undermine your partner’s self-esteem. In all areas of life, a critical person is an unattractive person.

4. Be always right. If you’re always right, the other person’s always wrong – and who wants to feel that they have nothing to contribute or that their point of view is stupid, unwanted and wrong?

5. Be narcissistic and selfish. The person who always has to have their own way in life or who’s only interested in their own needs and desires has little to add to a relationship.

6. Be dishonest. Trust is at the heart of all good relationships. If you can’t be real and honest or are not dependable, then there’s no foundation for a strong relationship. This includes being unfaithful or hiding the whole truth.

7. Be superior. If you’re quick to judge others, put people down or think that you are better than everybody else (more intelligent, prettier, cooler etc) then you’re setting yourself up for a lifetime of heartache. Although we all have strengths, and we may excel at times, each person is unique and is worthy of respect.

8. Be controlling. A relationship’s a gift. That person’s not your property. They’re allowed to be themselves, with their own views and beliefs. They don’t answer to you and they don’t have to change themselves. They’re autonomous and free – and they’re not there to be controlled.

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Soulmates Aren’t Just Lovers

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A relationship should not be measured in months or years. It’s the calibre of the memories that matter. Their impact, their permanence, and the degree to which they change you. I’ve had relationships lasting years I can now scarcely recollect, and hours with others that feel like infinities.
Beau Christopher Taplin, The Measurement

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