A Truly Happy Person…

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1. Is able to experience a whole range of emotions. He or she is authentic and doesn’t wear a mask. They don’t always seem upbeat or are never, ever down. Also, they don’t project their moods and their feelings onto others or blame other people if they’re having a bad day.

2. Is able to appreciate the beauty of others, and is happy for them when successes come their way. They are someone who’s secure in their own identity and doesn’t need to criticize or want others to fail.

3. Can let offenses go, and doesn’t take things personally. That’s because they have a healthy and balanced self-esteem.

4. Is concerned when others suffer and will offer them support. This person’s a true friend and they truly care for you.

5. Is not in competition with others in their life. They compete against themselves, and try to raise their own bar high.

6. Doesn’t magnify the bad or distort reality. They work on their shortcomings and they recognize their strengths.

7. Appreciates the small things, and can make the most of the “now”. They’re not tripped up the past or are quick to run ahead. They know that both these matter – but what matters right now is “today”.

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Small Ways To Improve Your Life

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  • Make your bed to immediately make your room look more put together
  • Water first, then coffee or tea
  • Pray or meditate, even just for ten minutes, to set the tone for your day
  • Browse the news headlines (and read the articles that interest you when you’ve got time)
  • Wear something you feel b o m b in
  • Listen to music while doing your daily activities – commuting, cleaning, cooking, exercising
  • Smile at at least two people
  • Smile at YOURSELF
  • Call or message someone you love
  • Eat food that makes you feel radiant
  • Make lists of things you need to accomplish for the day
  • Stretch for 10 minutes
  • Record in your phone the positive thoughts you have so you can remember them
  • Carry water with you (always always always)
  • Shut off your phone for an hour and have some ME time
  • Take a hot shower or bath at the end of a stressful day
  • Try to make plans to spend time with someone at least once a week
  • Think about three things you are grateful for at the end of each day
  • Do something calming, relaxing and non-electronic 30 minutes before you sleep
  • Sleep pants-less

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Don’t Take It Personally

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I learned the hard way that I cannot always count on others to respect my feelings – even if I respect theirs. Being a good person doesn’t guarantee that others will be good people. You only have control over yourself and how you choose to be as a person. As for others, you can only choose to accept them or walk away.
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A huge amount of freedom comes when you take nothing personally.
Don Miguel Ruiz

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Remain With The Sadness

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When there’s a fresh wound in your heart, keep it open until it heals. Air it out. Understand it. Dive into it. Be fierce enough to become it. If you ignore it, it won’t be able to breath. If you ignore it, it will merely deepen, spread, and resurface later, wanting to release. And when later happens, it will hurt even more, because when later happens, you won’t know what you’re bleeding for. Remain with it until it clears, and watch the beauty pour into your openness. Remain open to feel lightness. Remain open to feel free.
Victoria Erickson

I have learned that when sadness comes to visit me, all I can do is say “I see you.” I spend some time with it, get up, and say goodbye. I don’t push it away. I own it. And because I own it, I let it go.
Carolina Zacaria

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Self-Care Isn’t Always Pretty

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Self-care isn’t always pretty, it’s not always candles and a bathtub full of roses, sometimes it’s forcing yourself to get out of bed and dragging yourself, sometimes it’s the pep talk you give to yourself or the quick cry in the corner. Sometimes it is convincing yourself to do all these things you should be doing but you have no will whatsoever, sometimes it’s cutting some ties no matter how precious they were, sometimes it’s the bitter medicine you need to give yourself.
Self-care isn’t always pretty but it’s so worth it.
Kriti G

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You Are Not Your Body

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People don’t look at you and see your body. They don’t measure the space between your thighs or the width around your stomach. That doesn’t happen. People see your pretty smile and your soft hair and your cheeks red from the cold and your eyes. They hear your laugh and your sentences and your jokes and your ideas. There is so much more than this tiny human vessel you were given. Your legs can walk and your brain can think and your hands can feel. You could walk anywhere. You could cut all your hair off. The possibilities are endless and you were given this life, this opportunity, to explore and to create and to love and be loved back.
You are not your body. You are the songs you sing and the friends you make and the words you write and the places you go. I believe in you. I really do. You are going to do something so great in this world. You can share ideas and teach so many people. Please take care of yourself. Give your body fuel so it can think and smile and be healthy. Please.
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