1. Be honest with yourself and accept how you feel. You can’t work with your feelings if you deny they are real.

2. At the same time, don’t keep going over the negative events or they’ll start to dominate you, spiral and get worse.

3. Don’t react right away – take a breath and count to 10. Make sure you keep control and don’t do something you’ll later regret.

4. Try to notice what triggers provoke negative feelings – and when you’re calm, try to think about how to cope and deal with them.

5. Think of things that you can do to try and help improve your mood such as going for a jog or talking with a caring friend.

6. Remind yourself that you are valuable and have a lot to offer. Think of all your strengths and all the good things you have done.

7. Choose just to let go of the past and focus on the present. Don’t let it stop you living and having a great life.

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No matter what happens, no matter how far you seem to be away from where you want to be, never stop believing that you will somehow make it. Have an unrelenting belief that things will work out, that the long road has a purpose, that the things that you desire may not happen today, but they will happen. Continue to persist and persevere.
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1. Always focus on what you want rather than what you don’t want. The mistake that most of us make when having a problem is to talk about it over and over again instead of focusing on the end result and what we want to achieve.

2. Know that every problem comes with a lesson. There is always a lesson in everything that happens to us, and we should constantly look for what that lesson is and master it. For as Confucius said: “If you make a mistake and do not correct it, this is called a mistake.”

3. Don’t believe everything you think. Our problems aren’t as big as the mind is trying to convince us, and if you choose to believe every negative though that goes through your mind, you will always get in trouble. Observe your mind, observe your thoughts, but don’t identify yourself with them. Go beyond them.

4. Choose to express your gratitude for everything that happens to you, whether good or bad, and also for every person you interact with. The more you choose to express your gratitude, the more reasons you will have to express your gratitude for, and when you’re too busy focusing on the many things that you are grateful for, there will be no more room left for stress and worry.

5. Know that there is a reason for everything. Everything that happens to you happens for a reason and every person that enters your life enters for a reason. It’s your responsibility to act upon this knowing and not to label them as being good or bad, negative or positive etc.

6. Let go of your need for perfection. When you try to do everything perfectly, you will meet with stress and frustration as it’s impossible to be perfect in everything you do.

7. Let go of your resistance. Accept things as they are without you trying to change them, without trying to fight against them. Go with the flow, and know that life isn’t meant to be a struggle all the time.

8. Learn to be present in everything you do. When you become present and really engaged in the now, your whole life will become so much easier.

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