How To Deal With Painful Feelings Of Rejection

Feelings are a lot of work.

1. Talk about your feelings with someone you trust and accepts you unconditionally.

2. Make a list of all your positive traits. Include all the good things that you see in yourself and everything that others have mentioned in the past. Make sure the list is detailed and very, very long!

3. Recognise that rejection says nothing about you. It is one specific person or one relationship. Don’t allow that to define you as a total individual. There’s so much more to you than that one aspect of your life.

4. Do something you enjoy. Take your mind off feeling lonely or feeling like a failure by choosing to do something that you usually enjoy (listening to music, going to the movies, calling up a friend, reading a book etc).

5. Treat yourself to something special, like a new pair of jeans. There’s nothing wrong with seeking out a temporary boost. It can help you get past this moment so you can find the strength you need to pick up all the pieces and build your life again.

6. Do something physical, like going for a run. It’s a great way to channel energy. Also, exercise has been shown to be a natural mood enhancer.

7. Remember, not everyone will think you’re fabulous. That is just a part of being human; we’re all different from each other. Accept and value your own uniqueness, your qualities, your strengths and your personality.

8. Remember that “this too will pass”. We all encounter various bumps along the way. It feels bad in the moment, but in time our feelings will change.

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No One Is ‘Made For You’

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No other person on this planet was made for you, they were made for themselves. Love is all about choices. No one is going to be perfect for you, and I think we need to stop raising everyone on the belief that someone out there, just one other person in the whole world, was ‘made for you’ because it isn’t true. No one is made for you, besides you. Other people belong to themselves. If you want to make it work with someone, it’s about hard work, understanding, compassion, communication, and choice.

Don’t rush into any kind of relationship. Work on yourself. Feel yourself, experience yourself, and love yourself. Do this first and you will soon attract that special loving other.
Russ Von Hoelscher

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The Difference Between ‘I Like You’ And ‘I Love You’

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What is the difference between ‘I like you’ and ‘I love you? Beautifully answered by the Buddha: ‘When you like a flower you just pluck it; when you love a flower you water it daily.’ The one who understands this understands life.

Go and love someone exactly as they are. Then, watch how they transform into the greatest, truest version of themselves. When one feels seen and appreciated in their own essence, one is instantly empowered.
Wes Angelozzi

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Whose Presence Calls Forth Your Best?

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Be selective about whom you take on as friends, colleagues and neighbors. All of these people can affect your destiny. The world is full of agreeable and talented folk. The key is to keep company only with people who uplift you, whose presence calls forth your best.
Epictetus, The Art of Living

Things that should be asked often in every type of relationship:
How is your heart?
Is your breathe happy here?
Do you feel free?
Nayyirah Waheed

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The Tantric Woman

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When a Tantric woman lets you inside of her sexually, she is letting you inside of all of her.
She is not connecting with you to feel desirable. She knows she’s desirable because she desires herself every day in her self pleasure.
She’s not pursuing you for her own personal romantic comedy. Drama isn’t the appeal of a relationship for her.
She’s not with you for company. She has an alive tribe of spiritual warriors and magical sages that she calls friends.
She is with you to touch souls.
If you choose a Tantric woman, know that she is a gateway. She is a cleanse for your spirit. All that has distracted you from your original nature will be burned in the fires of her passion, and washed away with the amrita of her heart.
She is you. Your reflection.
Chelsea Marie Beggs

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Who You Attract Is A Reflection Of You

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In seeking your ‘ideal lover’, I encourage you to take a look at how you show up for yourself as your own lover. Do you treat yourself how you wish a lover would treat you? Do you touch yourself how you wish your lover to touch you? Do you make love to yourself regularly? It’s so easy to make others wrong: “There’s just so many idiots out there!” or “All women are head cases!” or “I’m so over men letting me down, they’re so inconsiderate!” etc. Here’s a hint: who you attract into your life is a direct reflection of you. So, stop complaining, blaming and shaming the disappointing lovers that keep showing up in your life. Instead turn inward and ask yourself where you need to step up within yourself and grow up your own inner masculine and/or feminine. I guarantee that if you do the work and mature and grow up these parts of yourself, then you will begin to attract in the ideal lovers instantly.
Juliet Allen

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