It’s Not Always Smooth Sailing

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Any partner we choose will hurt us at one time or another. No relationship, even the most ideal, has unwavering smooth sailing… There will always be differences between lovers.
Sue Johnson

The person you marry is the person you fight with. The house you buy is the house you repair. The dream job you take is the job you stress over. Everything comes with an inherent sacrifice – whatever makes us feel good will also inevitably make us feel bad. What we gain is also what we lose. What creates our positive experiences will define our negative experiences.
Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck

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Happy Without You

Sure, I’m sad, but I’m not looking to soothe that sadness by replacing it with a new relationship. Women are allowed to be sad, and they’re allowed to be single, and they don’t need to hear that one day a man is going to make it all go away by telling her she is good enough again. She’s good enough as she is.
Charlotte Green

I’m going to find a way to be happy, and I’d really love to be happy with you, but if I can’t be happy with you, then I’ll find a way to be happy without you.
Randy Pausch

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Share Your Love With Someone Who Appreciates You

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A healthy relationship isn’t about possession but appreciation. It is about helping the other person become his/her greatest version.

It’s all about falling in love with yourself and sharing that love with someone who appreciates you, rather than looking for love to compensate for a self-love deficit.
Eartha Kitt

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Don’t Let Bitterness Change You For The Worse

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The more you have loved and have allowed yourself to suffer because of your love, the more you will be able to let your heart grow wider and deeper.
Henri Nouwen

When other people treat you poorly keep being you. Don’t ever let someone else’s bitterness change the person you are.

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Be More Honest

You make me brave.

I think people would be happier if they admitted things more often. In a sense we are all prisoners of some memory, or fear, or disappointment—we are all defined by something we can’t change.
Simon Van Booy

Accept that honesty and integrity will not always make you look good.
Albert Ellis

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Let Go Of What You Can’t Change

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I think part of the reason why we hold on to something so tight is because we fear something so great won’t happen twice.

If you can’t do anything about it then let it go. Don’t be a prisoner to things you can’t change.
Tony Baskin

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