How To Deal With Painful Feelings Of Rejection

Feelings are a lot of work.

1. Talk about your feelings with someone you trust and accepts you unconditionally.

2. Make a list of all your positive traits. Include all the good things that you see in yourself and everything that others have mentioned in the past. Make sure the list is detailed and very, very long!

3. Recognise that rejection says nothing about you. It is one specific person or one relationship. Don’t allow that to define you as a total individual. There’s so much more to you than that one aspect of your life.

4. Do something you enjoy. Take your mind off feeling lonely or feeling like a failure by choosing to do something that you usually enjoy (listening to music, going to the movies, calling up a friend, reading a book etc).

5. Treat yourself to something special, like a new pair of jeans. There’s nothing wrong with seeking out a temporary boost. It can help you get past this moment so you can find the strength you need to pick up all the pieces and build your life again.

6. Do something physical, like going for a run. It’s a great way to channel energy. Also, exercise has been shown to be a natural mood enhancer.

7. Remember, not everyone will think you’re fabulous. That is just a part of being human; we’re all different from each other. Accept and value your own uniqueness, your qualities, your strengths and your personality.

8. Remember that “this too will pass”. We all encounter various bumps along the way. It feels bad in the moment, but in time our feelings will change.

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7 Contributors To Happiness

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1. Have a good core group of friends.

2. Build some adventure into your life. Don’t fall into “the same old, same old”.

3. Research confirms that “stuff won’t make us happy,” so clear out the junk and only keep what you love.

4. Work on establishing balance in your life. Don’t be too busy or you’ll wind up depressed.

5. Give in to temptation every now and again. Too much discipline is boring in the end.

6. Like and appreciate yourself. Take time to notice and affirm your strengths.

7. Start living in the moment – don’t doubt every move. Accept your decision as the best one right now.

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It’s Never To Late To Change

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Listen closely: the only time it’s too late to change yourself is when you’re dead. Until then, you’re simply making excuses or lying to yourself.
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Just for the record, not all positive change feels positive in the beginning.
S.C. Lourie

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A Life Of Fearlessness

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I think there is a certain age, for women, when you become fearless. It may be a different age for every woman, I don’t know. It’s not that you stop fearing things: I’m still afraid of heights, for example. Or rather, of falling — heights aren’t the problem. But you stop fearing life itself. It’s when you become fearless in that way that you decide to live. Perhaps it’s when you come to the realization that the point of life isn’t to be rich, or secure, or even to be loved — to be any of the things that people usually think is the point. The point of life is to live as deeply as possible, to experience fully. And that can be done in so many ways.
Theodora Goss

May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears.
Nelson Mandela

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No One Is ‘Made For You’

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No other person on this planet was made for you, they were made for themselves. Love is all about choices. No one is going to be perfect for you, and I think we need to stop raising everyone on the belief that someone out there, just one other person in the whole world, was ‘made for you’ because it isn’t true. No one is made for you, besides you. Other people belong to themselves. If you want to make it work with someone, it’s about hard work, understanding, compassion, communication, and choice.
Hightaako

Don’t rush into any kind of relationship. Work on yourself. Feel yourself, experience yourself, and love yourself. Do this first and you will soon attract that special loving other.
Russ Von Hoelscher

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When You’re Fighting Depression…

Slow down

1. Remind yourself that thoughts and feelings aren’t facts. Often we think extreme and negative things which are not completely true in reality. Try to get perspective and be more balanced – and try to counteract accusing, negative thoughts.

2. Be patient, understanding and gentle with yourself. When you’re fighting depression or are feeling overwhelmed, that uses up a lot of your energy. Accept that today is going to be harder and put fewer expectations and demands upon yourself.

3. Do one small thing as it will help you to get moving and feel more hopeful as you see yourself making some progress. Also, keeping yourself busy will interrupt your thinking and will help stop your feelings from getting even worse.

4. Although it’s not usually helpful to isolate ourselves, be wise in the people that you choose to be around. If other people are too happy or too harsh and critical, it will compound your feelings of negativity. Instead, try and spend time with people who are gentle and calm and who help you feel accepted and more positive.

5. Remember that tomorrow could be a better day. You just need to find the energy to make it through today.

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