Let Fear Make You Brave

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When has shrinking ourselves because of fear helped us? It has never helped. Fear is an emotion that should visit and when it leaves, it should make you brave. It should make you want to do more, create more and learn more. Fear is normal but when we let fear stay too long, it paralyzes us.
Lara Witt, from “Decolonizing Poetry: an interview with Ijeoma Umebinyuo.

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You Need To Breathe And Be

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Find meaning. Distinguish melancholy from sadness. Go out for a walk… It doesn’t have to be a walk during which you’ll have multiple life epiphanies and discover meanings no other brain ever managed to encounter. Do not be afraid of spending quality time by yourself. Find meaning or don’t find meaning but ‘steal’ some time and give it freely and exclusively to your own self. Opt for privacy and solitude. That doesn’t make you antisocial or cause you to reject the rest of the world. But you need to breathe. And you need to be.
Albert Camus, Notebooks 1951-1959

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You Can Begin Again

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What I know for sure is this: The most important adventure of our lives doesn’t have to involve climbing the highest peak or trekking around the world. The biggest thrill you can ever achieve is to live the life of your dreams.
Maybe you’re like so many women I’ve talked to over the years who have suspended their deepest desires to in order to accommodate everything and everyone else. You ignore the nudge—that whisper that often comes in the form of emptiness or restlessness—to finally get on with what you know you should be doing. I understand how easy it is to rationalise: Your mate and your children need you; the job that you admit makes you miserable demands so much of your time. But what happens when you work hard at something unfulfilling? It drains your spirit. It robs you of your life force. You end up depleted, depressed, and angry.
You don’t have to waste another day on that road. You can begin again. Starting over begins with looking inward. It means ridding yourself of distractions and paying attention to that inkling you’ve been ignoring. I’ve learned that the more stressful and chaotic things are on the outside, the calmer you need to get on the inside. It’s the only way you can connect with where your spirit is leading you.
Oprah Winfrey

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Make Your Own Path In Life

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You don’t have to follow a set path. You don’t have to fit into a predetermined life that someone else has decided for you. You need to do what makes you happy. Not what makes your parents, friends or family happy, what makes you happy. You don’t need to know what that is in your teens, in your twenties or whatever age someone expects you to have it all figured out, because it’s never too late to live life to its fullest. This is a journey, not a destination, and people grow and adapt every single day. They find new ways to be happy, new goals to set, new ways to live. So, make your own path in life. Follow it to your own happiness. Remember that this life is yours and it’s up to you what you decide to do with it.
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