The Plight Of Instagram

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Feeling fired up and inspired to write about the plight of social media, namely Instagram.

Yes, IG is a fantastic platform for business promotion and yes, I love that I can use IG to get my message about sex out to literally 1000’s of people (with the intention of empowering more and more people globally to live a sexually free, expressive and authentic life).

However, the main issues I have with Instagram are this:

1. People are relying on IG followers and IG ‘likes’ to boost their self-worth (this is downright sad and I fucking hate that this is the world that my daughter will one day be exposed to — by one day, I mean NO TIME SOON, because in my opinion NO 12-year-old child should be allowed Instagram).

Relying on IG for self-worth means people are spending huge amounts of time snapping a million photos of themselves before they ‘get the shot’ — the final product being ridiculously filtered, highly posed images that are not a true and authentic representation of their real life.

2. Spending all the time that we do (myself included — this is definitely a work in progress for me) means that we are spending less and less time with REAL, AUTHENTIC humans, experiencing REAL, AUTHENTIC connection and intimacy. Couples in particular are connecting less than they ever have, instead trading in quality time for time scrolling through their phone. Often whilst in bed. Urggggggg. If anything will kill your sex life, THAT will.

I could go on and on about this topic, but I won’t, mainly ‘cos I want you off your phone and in real life instead. However here’s some practical tips on how NOT to get caught up in the fake, pretend world that IG is.

  • No phones in bedrooms, EVER.
  • Stop spending your whole weekend snapping photos and practice PRESENCE. Presence with YOURSELF, presence with your loved ones. This goes for parents; stop trying to take cute snaps of your kids and instead use all your spare time to genuinely CONNECT with their hearts.
  • Unfollow bullshit accounts and friends who don’t make your feed feel uplifting, inspiring and full of high vibrational content.
    My new personal rule is to follow no more than 100 accounts at any time. This meant a shameless spring clean of who I follow. Highly recommended.
  • Work on your self-worth and prioritise authentic self-love. This is the key to true happiness and authentic connection within intimate relationships.

Good luck! Now stop scrolling and go do something meaningful with your day.

Juliet Allen

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To The Fools Who Dream

To the fools who dream.

Going after a dream has a price. It may mean abandoning our habits, it may make us go through hardships, or it may lead us to disappointment. But however costly it may be, it is never as high as the price paid by people who didn’t live.
Paul Coelho

If you talk about it three times, do it.

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A Life Of Fearlessness

Yes girl

I think there is a certain age, for women, when you become fearless. It may be a different age for every woman, I don’t know. It’s not that you stop fearing things: I’m still afraid of heights, for example. Or rather, of falling — heights aren’t the problem. But you stop fearing life itself. It’s when you become fearless in that way that you decide to live. Perhaps it’s when you come to the realization that the point of life isn’t to be rich, or secure, or even to be loved — to be any of the things that people usually think is the point. The point of life is to live as deeply as possible, to experience fully. And that can be done in so many ways.
Theodora Goss

May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears.
Nelson Mandela

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Wake Up

Big ideas have small beginnings

Wake up. True change demands action, not passive acceptance. There is deep beauty in being strong, in being fearless. There are no mountains high enough. Be awake. Be mindful. Create the life you want to live and live that life, not the ones other people want you to conform to. Be the change. With each action, each thought, each word, each intention.
Angela Davis

There’s a difference between interest and commitment. When you’re interested in doing something, you do it only when it’s convenient. When you’re committed to something, you accept no excuses, only results.
Kenneth Blanchard

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