My checklist for a broken heart:
- Travel. Travel is one of the biggest cures for a break-up. It takes you out of your head and reminds you of the endless beauty and possibilities of life. Whether you go overseas or travel domestically, spend it on a beach or in the mountains — always go with an open mind, no matter how broken your heart may be.
- Lean on your friends. Skype with them, call them or send them a message to let them know you are struggling. Draw on their love and support and do not be afraid to ask for help when you need it; that’s what good friends are there for.
- Pray and send him/her love. I like what Richard says to Elizabeth in Eat, Pray, Love when she tells him that she misses her ex-boyfriend: “So miss him. Send him some love and light every time you think about him, then drop it.”
- Move your body. Yoga, hiking, boxing, taking a long walk — get some movement. If you get a sweat going, even better. Sweat is good for the body. Sweat is good for the soul.
- Eat bad food. Then, eat good food. After you eat pizza and chocolate and drink too much wine for a little while, switch it up and eat something wholesome and healthy and nutritious. It’s all about balance.
- Have a good cry. Cry as hard and as long as you need to, until there is nothing left inside of you to let out. Empty the ocean that is within you to make room for love to rush in and replace it.
- Wrap a big blanket around you and binge watch a TV series. My friend Anja once told me to do this because I had been living alone in Bangkok at that time and had no one to hug me. It literally feels like you are being held by a soft and giant teddy bear while you are watching Netflix.
- Listen to sad music. Sad music can heal. Sad music can soothe. Sad music can bring forth tears, and tears are good for the soul.
- Have a fun night out. Dress to kill, then go drink and dance with your friends. It’s good to have fun and meet new people once in a while to remind yourself there is a life after your heartbreak.
- Take a break from social media. Deactivate your Facebook, Instagram or Snapchat for a while. Focus on self-care; focus on putting in rather than out. And if your ex is on any of those social media platforms, it’s a good idea to unfriend or unfollow them now. It will be hard, but it will make it so much easier to move on in the long-run.
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