How To Deal With Painful Feelings Of Rejection

Feelings are a lot of work.

1. Talk about your feelings with someone you trust and accepts you unconditionally.

2. Make a list of all your positive traits. Include all the good things that you see in yourself and everything that others have mentioned in the past. Make sure the list is detailed and very, very long!

3. Recognise that rejection says nothing about you. It is one specific person or one relationship. Don’t allow that to define you as a total individual. There’s so much more to you than that one aspect of your life.

4. Do something you enjoy. Take your mind off feeling lonely or feeling like a failure by choosing to do something that you usually enjoy (listening to music, going to the movies, calling up a friend, reading a book etc).

5. Treat yourself to something special, like a new pair of jeans. There’s nothing wrong with seeking out a temporary boost. It can help you get past this moment so you can find the strength you need to pick up all the pieces and build your life again.

6. Do something physical, like going for a run. It’s a great way to channel energy. Also, exercise has been shown to be a natural mood enhancer.

7. Remember, not everyone will think you’re fabulous. That is just a part of being human; we’re all different from each other. Accept and value your own uniqueness, your qualities, your strengths and your personality.

8. Remember that “this too will pass”. We all encounter various bumps along the way. It feels bad in the moment, but in time our feelings will change.

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