How To Deal With Insecurity In A Relationship

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1. Take control of your thought life and focus on the truth. A lot of people become insecure because they imagine things falling apart. Stop imaging your partner being untrue to you, or becoming interested in someone else. Don’t let your fears create a false reality.

2. Let the relationship follow its own course. Allow yourself and your partner to simply be themselves, and to only commit when each is ready to commit. A good relationship is based on understanding and respect.

3. Don’t give into the urge to snoop around. Don’t start being sneaky, or act in ways that make you seem suspicious or lacking in trust. That will only undermine your relationship.

4. Focus on being positive. Instead of using up your energy on feeling insecure, putting yourself down, or thinking of “what ifs”, try and think about the happy, good experiences you’ve shared.

5. Don’t compare yourself with others. We all have different strengths, personalities and gifts. Be proud of who you are—you are special and unique.

6. Don’t compare this relationship to previous relationships. Even if things have gone wrong in a past relationship, doesn’t mean this partner is going to treat you badly. It’s a new chapter now—give your partner a fair chance.

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Be Afraid And Do It Anyway

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My whole life I’ve been telling myself, ‘don’t be afraid’. And it is only now that I’m realising how stupid that is—don’t be afraid. Like saying, ‘don’t move out of the way when someone tries to punch you’ or ‘don’t flinch at the heat of fire’ or ‘don’t blink’. Don’t be human. I’m afraid and you’re afraid and we’re all always going to be afraid, because that’s the point. What I should be telling myself is ‘be afraid, but do it anyway’. Live anyway.

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How To Look Forward To Every Day

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You’ve gotta start romanticising your life. You gotta start believing that your morning commute is cute and fun, that every cup of coffee is the best you’ve ever had, that even the smallest and most mundane things are exciting and new. You have to, because that’s when you start truly living. That’s when you look forward to every day.

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Diet Culture

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Diet culture is rooted in the idea that our bodies are machines that our minds have to outwit. It pushes for the idea that hunger is something you have to “beat”, that cravings are an annoyance to ignore or outwit, that the way our bodies want to look and want to be is something to fight, that it needs to be helped to do things it was built to do.
Here is the liberating truth: your body is smart and it is trying to help you. It works so hard to keep you alive – sometimes it fails at what it’s trying to do, sometimes it does it in unconventional ways, but it is trying to keep you alive! Hunger is our body saying “we need food” – it’s not something to ignore or suppress. Cravings are our body saying “we need a specific type of food” – they aren’t something to trick or prevent. Natural weight and weight distribution are our body saying “this is the shape in which we work best” – they aren’t something to control or reduce. Denying this is what hurts us most, even though diet culture tries to tell us that listening to our bodies and treating them with kindness and forgiveness is wrong.

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