Tips For Listening Well

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1. Don’t interrupt. Let the speaker finish what they are saying – and at a speed that is comfortable for them – before formulating your own response.

2. Give the speaker your full and undivided attention. Ignore what is happening around you and block out distracting noises.

3. Pay attention to your own internal dialogue and don’t allow your mind to wander. This is not the time for you to be judging or mentally criticising the speaker or thinking about all the items on your to-do list for the day. Focus on what is being said, the tone of voice, and the body language of the speaker.

4. Pay attention to your own body language. Ask yourself: what kind of vibes am I giving off? What kind of message am I sending? The emphasis should be on looking and sounding concerned, interested, focused, accepting and genuine.

5. Be comfortable with silence. Often silence encourages the person to say more. Also, we don’t need to have an answer to every question or a solution to every problem. Most of the time it is presence and empathy that count the most.

6. Don’t get drawn into playing the game of “I have it so much worse than you; or my problem is bigger than yours.” In this situation, you are there for them. They are the focus and priority right now.

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Growing Pains

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Nobody ever talks about this part… You know, the part where you’re no longer a caterpillar and not yet a butterfly. You don’t know who you are and you don’t know where you’re going. All you know is that every fibre of your being is calling for transformation. For disruption. For a revolution of the spirit. So surrender. Breakdown.
This is not the death of you. This is the dying of who you once were. This is your rebirth, darling.
And these are called, “growing pains.”
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Move With Mindfulness

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Take your morning back from distraction and phones and planning and worry. Wake up and drink water, move slow, brush your teeth, scrape your tongue. Prepare your herbs and massage your body with oil. Do a breathing exercise then rinse off. Leave your phone in the corner. Make a simple breakfast and your coffee. Chew your food and only do that. When you’re finished, move on with your day. You’ll get more done during this morning moment than you think – maybe an hour of time total. This sounds like pushing productivity but I’m not, it’s ritual & routine and that makes humans feel really good. Try it out for a month and see how nourishing and impactful it is to move with careful purpose, just for yourself and no other reason.
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Control Your Reactions

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Being jealous and insecure is okay. Demanding that your friend or partner stop seeing their other friends isn’t.
Wanting attention is okay. Demanding your friend or partners attention 24/7 isn’t.
Being angry is okay. Taking your anger out on innocent people isn’t.
We can’t control our feelings and we shouldn’t attempt to, but we can and should work to control our reactions to said feelings.
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