Coping With Suicidal Thoughts

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1. Promise not to do anything right now. Even though you’re in a lot of pain right now, give yourself some distance between thoughts and action. Make a promise to yourself: “I will wait 24 hours and won’t do anything drastic during that time.” Or, wait a week. Your suicidal thoughts do not have to become a reality.

2. Avoid drugs and alcohol. Suicidal thoughts can become even stronger if you have taken drugs or alcohol. It is important to not use non-prescription drugs or alcohol when you feel hopeless or are thinking about suicide.

3. Make your home safe. Remove things you could use to hurt yourself, such as pills, knives, razors, or firearms. If you are unable to do so, go to a place where you can feel safe. If you are thinking of taking an overdose, give your medicines to someone who can return them to you one day at a time as you need them.

4. Take hope – people DO get through this. Even people who feel as badly as you are feeling now manage to survive these feelings. Take hope in this. There is a very good chance that you are going to live through these feelings, no matter how much self-loathing, hopelessness or isolation you are currently experiencing.

5. Don’t keep these suicidal feelings to yourself. Many of us have found that the first step to coping with suicidal thoughts and feelings is to share them with someone we trust. It may be a friend, a therapist, a member of the clergy, a teacher, a family doctor, a coach or an experienced counselor at the end of a helpline. Find someone you trust and let them know how bad things are. Don’t let fear, shame or embarrassment prevent you from seeking help.

Via Online Counselling College (Source: Help Guide)

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One Step At A Time

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If you’re reading this post, then it means that you’ve gotten through 100% of your bad days till now.
It means that you’re still here, although as tired as you may be of fighting, you’re here. And that’s what matters the most.
Look how far you’ve come without giving up yet, and even though the path ahead seems long, you’ll get there someday. One step at a time, one day at a time, you’ll reach the light at the end of this tunnel.
Healing Positivity

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Your Words Are Like Seeds

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I will be generous with my love today. I will sprinkle compliments and uplifting words everywhere I go. I will do this knowing that my words are like seeds and when they fall on fertile soil, a reflection of those seeds will grow into something greater.
Steve Maraboli

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How To Politely Tell Your Friend To Put Their Phone Away

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One of my biggest pet peeves is when I’m having a conversation with someone and they whip out their phone halfway through and start scrolling or messaging someone.

It is, to me, one of the rudest things you can do. It communicates to me, ‘I’d rather be in the virtual world than be here with you.’

After a recent catch-up session with a friend of mine in which she kept stopping me mid-conversation to reply back to her messages, I realised that the only way people were going to stop doing that was if I told them.

Telling a friend to stop going on their phones when they’re with you is awkward and uncomfortable AF. But, what I valued more than my own discomfort and fear of doing so was uninterrupted connection, feeling heard and ultimately, presence.

It is a rare thing to get all three these days; so much so, that whenever I am graced with it, I feel overwhelmed and grateful. People are constantly looking down at their phones, constantly distracted, constantly looking for the next thing to keep them entertained and amused. We have become uncomfortable with silence and boredom and the compassionate and unselfish act of listening.

I know I cannot affect change on a large scale, but I can begin by changing the way things work in my own life. How do I tell a friend, politely, to put their phone away when they’re with me?

I decided the best thing to say is: “Hey, it’s important to me that you’re present when I’m talking. Do you mind putting your phone away for the rest of our conversation?”
Rather than finger-pointing, it expresses your needs and asks a simple request that they can accept or decline.

In addition to this, I believe that one of the best ways we can go against the “always distracted” culture is to lead by example in our own lives. When you’re with someone, put your phone away and don’t take it out until you are alone again. Always hold eye contact and make an effort to listen and be present to what the other person is saying. On the occasions you do have to use your phone in front of someone, apologise, look them in the eye and say, “I’m really sorry – you are my priority right now but I just need to check/send this off really quickly.” Then, turn off your phone and give them your undivided attention.

These small acts of grace build up; they build up to become the person you are. Build yourself into someone who makes people feel seen, heard and important.
Choose presence over distraction, even if it is boring and uncomfortable.
Choose to create spaces of total uninterruptions.
Choose people over screens. 

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