How To Figure Out What To Do With Your Life

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1. Begin by imagining your dreams have come true. What would your life look like? What would you be doing? How would you be making money? Where would you be living? What would you be doing in your spare time? What sorts of people would you be with?

2. Try reading some inspirational blogs, autobiographies or self-help books. Often these help to uncover our passions and the kind of person we really want to be.

3. Surround yourself with positive and motivated people – those who know what they want and are consciously going after it.

4. Take up a hobby that really interests you. There’s usually a reason that we’re drawn to it.

5. Ask other people who know you well what they think would suit your personality. You’ll often be surprised by the kinds of things you learn.

6. Decide to “face your fears and do it anyway”. Don’t live a narrow life because you’re plagued by fear.

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Be Kind To Others And Yourself

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Two things to remember in life: Take care of your thoughts when you are alone, and take care of your words when you are with people.
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Be kind. Even on your bad days.
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Beware Of Abusers

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The thing I remember most, looking back on my abusive relationships, is that whenever I was angry about the way I was being treated and tried to confront my abuser it was never a fight about what I was angry about. He always made it a fight about me being angry. He always made it seem like my anger was the problem, not my abuse.
Abusers will make you believe that the abuse isn’t the problem, that your ‘irrational’ anger is the problem.
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8 Things You Can Chill Out About

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1. The few things that aren’t going right. When things go wrong, take a moment to be thankful for all the other things that are still going right. And if you’re struggling to be thankful for what you have, be thankful for what you have escaped. Sometimes the best gifts in life are the troubles you don’t have.

2. Trying to label everyone and everything. Sometimes you’ve just got to take people and situations for what they are, appreciate them, and not try to label them or change them.

3. Worrying about what everyone else thinks. The minute you stop overwhelming your mind with caring about what everyone else thinks and start doing what you feel in your heart is right, is the minute you will finally feel freedom.

4. Wasting time on the wrong people. You cannot make someone respect you; all you can do is be someone who can be respected. No matter how much you care, some people just won’t care back. At some point you have to realize the truth – that they no longer care or never did, and that maybe you’re wasting your time and missing out on someone else who does.

5. Old wounds and grudges. You will never find peace until you learn to finally let go of the hatred and hurt that lives in your heart. In order to move on, you must know why you felt the way you did, and why you no longer need to feel that way. It’s about accepting the past, letting it be, and pushing your spirit forward with good intentions.

6. Superficial judgments. Every human being is beautiful; it just takes the right set of eyes to see it.

7. Letting small disagreements snowball out of control. Don’t let a single poisonous moment of misunderstanding make you forget about the countless lovable moments you’ve spent together.

8. Showing a lack of self-respect. Decide this minute to never again beg anyone for the love, respect, and attention that you should be showing yourself. Choose to be your own best friend.

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Learn To Say No

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Learn to say:
No, to people when you don’t feel like hanging out.
No, to people who don’t deserve your time.
No, to people that make you feel uncomfortable.
No, to people that threaten your happiness.
No, to people that don’t let you be yourself.
No, to people that make you ashamed for what you like.
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What Makes You Kinder?

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Find out what makes you kinder, what opens you up and brings out the most loving, generous, and unafraid version of you ― and go after those things as if nothing else matters. Because, actually, nothing does.
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Kindness is stronger than power.
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